Where did Im Enough come from? A consolidation of information from young and parents.
Cathy Mellett of Im Enough chats to Mandy Beverley of the Remarkable Group. Mandy is pleased to be aligned with this cause.
She is focused and strongly motivated by people stepping into the full potential and possibilities that exist for them.
A mindset that is resourceful and flexibility helps us become the best that we can be. This works at so many levels including developing intuition and self-governance. The ability to govern our emotions and our wellbeing in the world.
Our Topic – My friends are being mean to me. Online or Offline.
Mandy confirms that universal energy needs positive and negative to create light. So, if you need this to exist to create light on a bigger picture – we also need this for our emotions and our mindset.
We will always have a balance. People will be mean and nice to us. This is a balance. The problem is that as humans we want pleasure without pain. Just like there is up and down, laws of gravity and laws of the universe.
If a friend is being mean to me. Then ask the question – who was being nice to me in that exact same moment.
There is always a balance of energies. If we are only focused on someone being mean, then that is all we will see and observe. Look around – You will always find someone being supportive at that moment.
If you know that you cannot have a positive without a negative, then go and look for the other part of the balanced equation. Stop yourself and reflect on what is good, what is positive. This is a great strategy that can stop you from becoming despondent or feeling the emotion associated with someone being mean to me.
Every human being has every trait. Mean, kindness etc. We need these traits to play in the world.
If you are worried – look for the other side.
Use your intuition.
Then step back and reflect.
Or even ask the question – where have I been mean.
If we go about thinking that everyone is perfect, we never do things that are bad. Then reflect on the universal laws and work on taking the charge out of the situation.
Consider how you absorb things. If someone says – you have green hair. Why do we then take on board when someone calls you are a NAME. Again, look at the power of questions. If your intuition says that this is incorrect, then you don’t need to take it on board. But if you can own the moments when you for e.g have been Mean and Nasty – own it. Then you stand for that and it really removes further conversation. Own when you have been but don’t absorb when you haven’t been.
Take back your power. Power to absorb, the power to reflect, the power to stand at that moment and reflect on how you will react to what someone has said.
We are incredibility powerful. Our minds are powerful, our minds are our beliefs. Our mind can then influence our brain and our body.
It is about valuing who you are. It is something we all fluctuate on. Feeling good, feeling not so great. But positive and negative is needed to grow.
Challenge yourself and then turn things around.
What can I do to do that and watch the support came in.
We are playing with a rule book within the universe without a full understanding of the rules. Having an awareness is always very valuable.
Emergency and help lines
Everyone knows someone in need, whether it's a family member, a school or work friend, an associate or someone that you meet as you are going about daily life. Perhaps you do not know where to find help. MyRivr uses your location details to be able to provide you with the exact service providers close to you should you need support or need a nearby agency.
About MyRivr
As an ex-cop and gang member, Akerei (Rei) Maresala-Thomson has spent time witnessing the struggles and challenges of the New Zealand community
After 12 years serving with the NZ Police, Rei resigned from his role as Senior Sergeant in Charge of the Pacific, Ethnic and Asian portfolio for Counties Manukau in March, 2017.
He has made it his mission to continue confronting issues, and trying to improve Pacific wellbeing in NZ – but this time he is using technology.
Rei is now the Technical Advisor for free app MYRIVR, a self-funded and volunteer managed concept from the community which was developed and released in 2015 by Corefusion Limited as MASA (Multi-Agency Services Application) to assist in a successful trial with Counties Manukau Police.
MYRIVR is now NZ’s largest in-app directory of community services, enabling visibility and instant access to more than 20,000 helpers and over 7,000 health and social services around the country.
If it is an emergency and you feel like you or someone else is at risk, call 111.
Kidsline is New Zealand's original telephone counselling service for all kids up to 14 years of age. Kidsline operates from 4pm to 6pm Monday through to Friday. When kids ring they will speak to a Kidsline buddy – a specially trained teenage telephone counsellor.
Lifeline's telephone counselling service provides 24 hour a day, 7 day a week counselling and support. Calls are confidential and free and you will speak to a trained Lifeline counsellor.
Phone: 522 2999 (within Auckland)
Phone: 0800 543 354 (outside Auckland)
Information for parents on creating a safe online learning and social environment for your children at home.
Information and advice about cyberbullying for young people, parents and teachers.
Kia Kaha is a school-based programme that aims to help schools create environments where all members of the community feel safe, respected and valued, and where bullying cannot flourish.
Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202 (to talk to a trained counsellor about how you are feeling or to ask any questions).
This includes includes The Journal online help service.
An online e-therapy tool provided by the University of Auckland that helps young people learn skills to deal with feeling down, depressed or stressed.
Provides confidential telephone support.
Helplines for children and young people
What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds).
Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, midday–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm.
Online chat is available 7pm–10pm daily.
Depression Helpline (8am to midnight) Phone: 0800 111 757
Samaritans Phone: 0800 726 666
Suicide Crisis Helpline Phone: 0508 828 865
0508MUSICHELP – The Wellbeing Service is a 24/7 online, on the phone and in-person counselling service fully funded by the NZ Music Foundation and provided free of charge to those in the Kiwi music community who can't access the help they need due to hardship and other circumstances. Call 0508 MUSICHELP.
Vagus Line – 0800 56 76 666 (Mon, Wed, Fri 12 noon – 2pm).
Promote family harmony among Chinese, enhance parenting skills, decrease conflict among family members (couple, parent-child, in-laws) and stop family violence
Women's Refuge Crisisline – 0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE) (for women living with violence, or in fear, in their relationship or family)
Shakti Crisis Line – 0800 742 584 (for migrant or refugee women living with family violence)
Free peer support services for people experiencing mental illness or those supporting them
Canterbury and West Coast – 03 379 8415 / 0800 899 276 (1pm to midnight, seven nights)
Free peer support services for people experiencing mental illness or those supporting them
Wellington 0800 200 207 (7pm–1am, Tuesday to Sunday)
Free peer support services for people experiencing mental illness or those supporting them
Auckland Central 0508 927 654 or 0508 WARMLINE (8pm to midnight, seven nights)
Depression and anxiety affects us all differently.
Free 24/7 Helpline: 0800 111 757 Text 4202
Youthline – 0800 376 633, free text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz or online chat
Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)
What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds).
Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, midday–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm. Online chat is available 7pm–10pm daily.
Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (0800 kidsline) for young people up to 18 years of age. Open 24/7.
thelowdown.co.nz – Phone: 0800 111 757 or email team@thelowdown.co.nz or free text 5626
Supporting Families in Mental Illness - 0800 732 825.
We all face challenges to our mental health at various times in our lives. The way we’re feeling can change how we think and how we deal with tough times.
There’s a range of resources and services available to help including phone and online services and information, as well as face-to-face support.
Most services are free and provide information and confidential advice from trained professionals. There's also information for family, whānau, or friends if they need advice and support.
If you’re told that there is a waiting time for a service, please still reach out and make contact. Other supports can be put in place – ask what you can try in the meantime.
Helplines for children and young people
Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time to talk to a trained counsellor.
To talk to a trained counsellor 24/7 call the Depression helpline – 0800 111 757.
To get help from a registered nurse 24/7 call Healthline – 0800 611 116.
Youthline – 0800 376 633, free text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz or online chat.
What's Up – 0800 942 8787, (for 5–18-year-olds). Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, 1 pm–10 pm and on weekends, 3 pm–10 pm. Online chat is available from 7 pm–10 pm daily.