Potentially dangerous apps your kids might have on their phones.
We know that the internet has brought some really good benefits. It helps people all around the world to communicate and to stay in touch. But giving the multiple risk situations that kids may face online, it’s okay as a parent to be aware of situations in which our kids could be exposed to danger.
According to the US Department of Justice, 13% of young people with internet access have been the victims of unwanted sexual advances, and one in 25 children have been solicited for offline contact. The New Zealand Police have also reported greater numbers of unsolicited contact occurring online since 2010.
These are the apps that represent the most risks for our kids that as parents we should constantly monitor:
- MeetMe and Bumble: Dating apps that connect with your current location to show people around you that you can meet in person. We have to make sure our kids know that there are potential risks on connecting with people we don’t know, like facing a fake profile without knowing who is behind or what their intentions are.
- WhatsApp and Snapchat: As we know, these apps are commonly used to send unlimited texts and photos to our beloved ones and stay in touch with people of all parts of the world. These apps are certainly harmless if we use them appropriately. But as parents, we might want to have a conversation with our little ones to make sure they are not exposed to inappropriate content and be aware of sharing their location with any contacts that might be suspicious.
- Ask.Fm: An online space where you can post anonymous questions about any topic and get other user’s responses that can suddenly turn out a target for bullying.
- Tinder: One of many online dating apps, with a high potential for danger. Fake profiles are possible, leading to the possibility of harassment, threats, offensive messages, and harmful behaviour on the app and in-person.
- Grindr: LGBT community dating app where users can become targets of aggression and bullying.
- Happn: Allows users to find each other by turning your geo-location on and tells the people you have crossed paths during your travels.
But what can we do to prevent this?
Online safety organisation NetSafe has the following advice for parents looking to get a grasp on the potential danger in their children’s online activity
- Understand: Read about the potential online risks, challenges and sometimes illegal behaviour young people face to understand what may happen
- Learn: Ask your child about what they do, how they use devices and who they talk to learn about their activities. Check-in regularly to see what has changed
- Explore: Take the time yourself to explore the sites, apps and technologies your child uses to improve your knowledge and understand their experience
- Agree: Create a family code with your child to agree on what they can do online including sites to visit, appropriate behaviours, privacy settings and limits
- Plan: Make a plan so everybody knows what to do if something goes wrong and where you will be able to get advice and support in challenging times
Even so, constantly reviewing our children’s social networks does not prevent them from making inappropriate decisions on their own and in the real world, We must create the habit of communicating with them, letting them know that there is a safe space of freedom and trust to which they can approach for advice.
#STARTTHECONVERSATION, no matter what age, let your children know you can listen and support them at any time and regardless of the situation. Make them feel that they can trust you. This is the basis of all children-parent communication.
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About MyRivr
As an ex-cop and gang member, Akerei (Rei) Maresala-Thomson has spent time witnessing the struggles and challenges of the New Zealand community
After 12 years serving with the NZ Police, Rei resigned from his role as Senior Sergeant in Charge of the Pacific, Ethnic and Asian portfolio for Counties Manukau in March, 2017.
He has made it his mission to continue confronting issues, and trying to improve Pacific wellbeing in NZ – but this time he is using technology.
Rei is now the Technical Advisor for free app MYRIVR, a self-funded and volunteer managed concept from the community which was developed and released in 2015 by Corefusion Limited as MASA (Multi-Agency Services Application) to assist in a successful trial with Counties Manukau Police.
MYRIVR is now NZ’s largest in-app directory of community services, enabling visibility and instant access to more than 20,000 helpers and over 7,000 health and social services around the country.
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