If you have someone in your life who suffers from mental illness, here is how you can help them:�
Be compassionate and supportive. Acknowledge their fears and, if they feel up to sharing, be a good listener. Understand that you may not be able to completely rid them of their problems, but you can do your best to support them. Don’t downplay them, even if you think they are overreacting.� imenough.co/news-and-interest/... See MoreSee Less
I am so proud of my youngest daughter Amélie, who today deleted her Instagram account!
It was actually a proud mummy moment. While I was busy roasting cauliflower and baking fresh fish, she spritely skipped into the kitchen, beaming in light and told me.
She is 15 years old in less than two weeks and while my career is social media based, I am not an advocate of teen girls being subject to ‘lives’ that are only what we want people to see.
My goal as a social media ‘public figure’ (whatever that means!) is to use technology to create more connection and to bring us closer together, not further apart. Using platforms like FB for the highest good and to fill our needs as humans has been a primary goal of mine for the past decade.
Women are wired gatherers! We are designed by nature to share information for survival. So platforms like this can be used in conscious ways to create deep connection and help us cheer each other on and stay positive, especially during extreme times like the present.
But where is the line drawn between authentic connection and genuine support, and using spaces like this to feed the human painbody and ego, instead of feeding the soul?
For the younger generations and even for many women in our generations, social media has the potential to meet our need for significance in either a conscious or unconscious way. We are all wired for the need to feel seen and heard, special and unique and as though our life matters to others.
By meeting our need authentically, we can contribute to others and give love and compassion to those who most need it. By meeting this need inauthentically, we may make our lives look fabulous and crave ‘likes’ and attention without ever showing true vulnerability, when the truth is, some days are not as good as others, and sometimes life is a shit storm we desperately want to escape! While it's unpopular to speak the truth, sometimes conscious vulnerability brings us closer together. (Stop touching up your photos ladies! 😂)
Our true nature as tribal women is that we are here to lovingly support each other and work together as a tribe. Up until recent times, our very lives depended upon that.
The truth is, life is HARD, moreso now than ever in our ‘privileged’ existence.
For the vast majority of us... We don't know war, we don't truly know famine, we don't know what its like to live without basic comforts...
But all of us right now are transitioning together into a new world we all get to co-create. So, what do we REALLY want to create together?
I for one, vote for more Love Compassion Tolerance Connection Empathy Unconditional love .... Did I mention love?
As a mother of three young women, I must hold a beacon of light for what's possible as we all co-create this new world together.
I am FAR from perfect as a mother, I know all three of my daughters will have ‘mummy issues’ but what I work so hard at in this world is trying desperately to leave behind a better world in which I want them to live in as women.
So, I invite each of you to join me in choosing to be mindful of the energy we bring to this space in which we choose to coexist in. And let's be awesome role models in powerfully positive ways, to show how social media can be used to benefit humanity. So our daughters and granddaughters feel safe to love themselves and feel at peace with their lives, no matter the storm they are enduring.
If we were all authentic in this way, our insecurities would fade into the background and our daughters would feel free to love themselves no matter what.
That's a world I want my daughters to live in and experience. And that's a legacy we, the older generation of women can leave behind.
If you are suffering right now through something – anything at all right now then we are here to tell you IT GETS BETTER!��
We know you may not have enough energy to try anything right now, but we encourage you to motivate yourself, remove those sheets, get out of the bed and fight for your mental health. And if you need support, turn to those you trust, tell them how they can help you find your way back to life. �
Depression can feel like drowning. Our tip on staying afloat: take one day at a time. ��
Don’t focus on the issues of the past and future, deal with how you feel right now, in this very moment, and see how you can make it better – would talking to professional help?
Would writing in your journal help or would it help if you take a walk on the beach or go out with your friends? Whatever you think will help you is worth trying so don’t give up – fight for your own mental health. ��We have also shared a few more tips on our website that might further help: imenough.co/news-and-interest/ � ... See MoreSee Less
Anger is a healthy emotion, but it can be really scary when your anger takes over or you lose control of a situation. If you’re a parent or carer to a young person experiencing anger, you may find that they struggle to manage their emotions, or their life and relationships are affected by their anger if they can’t control it well. But you can teach them safer, more healthy ways to manage their anger at the moment. ��Here are a few tips from Mind that you will find helpful:
✔ Offer a distraction. You could encourage them to try listening to music, playing an instrument, journaling, drawing, exercising, watching an episode of their favourite show, or playing a computer game. for example, this can give your loved one a chance to think about how they want to react to the situation and manage their anger.
✔ Encourage them to take a breather. Getting away from the situation, even for a few seconds, can help. They could try taking deep breaths, counting to 10 or going for a quick walk.
✔ Try mindfulness. A ‘grounding’ activity could help them relax and bring their thoughts back under control. Ask them to try to name 5 things they can see, 4 things they can feel, 3 things they can hear, 2 things they can smell, and 1 thing they can taste. �
✔ Support them to open up to someone they trust. It doesn’t have to be to you - it could be another family member, or a friend, teacher, or doctor. Or even a confidential chat with a counsellor.�Remember… learning something new takes time and practice, so be patient with your young person. And if they want to change, remind them that they may need to try out a few things before they find what works for them. ��
When we do something nice for someone else, be it a friend, colleague or stranger, not only does it make them feel good, it gives our well-being a boost in return.
Whether it's a big gesture or just a smile, everyone has a little act of kindness to offer. Encourage colleagues to think about someone who might need some extra support right now, because today is all about giving: our time, our kindness, our aroha, our kōrero, to others.